What Are You Looking For: The Tinder Filter
The 'what are you looking for' field is a filter, not a marketing claim. Use it to screen in the matches who want what you want, not to fish for everything. The four honest answers cover almost everyone; picking one tightens your pool but raises your conversion to dates. Most men game this field and end up with the wrong matches.
- It is a filter, not a marketing tagline.
- Pick the honest answer. Conversion goes up, count goes down.
- Short-term and long-term both work, if it is true.
- 'Still figuring it out' is a real answer for men who do not know.
The four working answers
Long-term partner. Screens for women who also want one. Slowest, highest conversion.
Short-term, open to long. The honest middle. Most foreign men in LATAM sit here.
Short-term fun. Fastest, lowest conversion to anything past a date.
Still figuring it out. Underused. Reads as honest, lands well with women who are also calibrating.
Why most men get this wrong
They pick the answer that maximizes match count instead of the answer that matches reality. The matches that come from a lie disappear after the first date or the first honest conversation.
How TextWizard uses this
If your filter says long-term and your threads close fast and never get to the second date, the tool flags the mismatch and tells you which knob to turn.
Frequently asked
- Can I leave it blank?
- Yes. Reads as slightly underconfident but is fine.
- Will picking 'long-term' kill my match count?
- Yes, by maybe a third. The third you lose were not going on a date with you anyway.
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