Examples
Flirty Texts to Send a Girl
By Marco Vance·4 min read·
Short answer
Flirty texts work when they fit the phase of the thread, not when they are clever. The examples below are organized by phase. Use them as patterns. Sending a closing line in a vibing phase fails just as hard as sending a vibing line in a closing phase.
TL;DR
- Match the line to the phase.
- Specifics carry the flirt, not adjectives.
- Tease once, then pull back.
Vibing
- "Just had the most aggressive Uber driver of my life. I think we are engaged now."
- "You strike me as the friend who organizes the chaos, not the one who causes it."
- "I have a theory about your weekend. It involves at least two outfit changes."
Teasing
- "You are kind of cocky." "Easily the most cocky person in this conversation."
- "Hmm. Thriller movies. Yellow flag. We can work on it."
- "Confirmed: you are the chaotic friend in your friend group."
Spiking
- "Just so we are on the same page: I am the kind of person who picks the restaurant and pretends to ask."
- "Voice note coming, this is faster."
- "Telling you in person, this is not a text-sized story."
Closing
- "We should fix this in person. What does your week look like."
- "Thursday around 8, drinks at Provenza, yes or no."
- "Saturday afternoon walk, you bring the questions, I bring the answers."
Frequently asked
- How do I know which phase I am in?
- Read the last three messages. Are you building tone (vibing), pushing energy (teasing), spiking interest (spiking), or asking (closing). Pick the line for the phase you are in.
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